Wednesday, December 31, 2014
Friday, December 19, 2014
Thursday, December 18, 2014
Wednesday, December 17, 2014
Tuesday, December 16, 2014
#ThisIsOurGod
"God is attracted to need, and He brings faith where there is need. He is attracted to mourning because that is where He brings great comfort to it. God is not intimidated by sin. Where sin abounds, Grace is there. Here is the Lord who is drawn to things that we think is aren't okay. And He actually is drawn to bring comfort, righteousness in place of sin, gift of repentance, strength where there's weakness and to give faith where there is lack."
Bill Johnson
Monday, December 15, 2014
#PrayForSydney
indeed Grace was there before any situation.
for a country that has birthed the greatest legends,
nothing can withhold what He has installed for the nations.
revival has already begun, and salvation is here.
for a country that has birthed the greatest legends,
nothing can withhold what He has installed for the nations.
revival has already begun, and salvation is here.
Wednesday, December 10, 2014
The total unexpected...
to have the least priority to come to fruition first was definitely not on my list for this year as there are plenty more on my plate that i am still trusting G for -- which in the natural is filled with endless impossibilities but yet know that it will somehow fall into its place when Grace is in charge. oh a miracle i need, a miracle i shall definitely have and more. and with the current change, i cannot pinpoint what is it that i am open to, as clearly the differences are extremely vast from all sorts which is surfacing as the day goes on.
have officially dropped all pasts experiences, including my own pride and rules that i have summed up all these years... and being entirely vulnerable with no more cards nor tricks on my deck is strangely effortless. being able to trust someone with your entire life and heart is definitely risky... oh the list is scarily real but yet there is some kind of rest and ease about it.
we are definitely venturing into something that only Grace can shine its light and wisdom on it. it is not just praying but also learning to lean on what the Spirit yearns for us to which is as hard as it is because the flesh is disgusting weak. so here goes to involving every bit of Jesus there is, because we don't want the feel good stuff, but more God stuff that resonates deeply into our heart and souls, and in turn transform us to mirror His likeness.
it's all on You J. it always have been, and always will be. xxx
have officially dropped all pasts experiences, including my own pride and rules that i have summed up all these years... and being entirely vulnerable with no more cards nor tricks on my deck is strangely effortless. being able to trust someone with your entire life and heart is definitely risky... oh the list is scarily real but yet there is some kind of rest and ease about it.
we are definitely venturing into something that only Grace can shine its light and wisdom on it. it is not just praying but also learning to lean on what the Spirit yearns for us to which is as hard as it is because the flesh is disgusting weak. so here goes to involving every bit of Jesus there is, because we don't want the feel good stuff, but more God stuff that resonates deeply into our heart and souls, and in turn transform us to mirror His likeness.
it's all on You J. it always have been, and always will be. xxx
Monday, December 8, 2014
Wednesday, December 3, 2014
Tuesday, December 2, 2014
Comparing is glaring...
"Comparison will consistently cloud the clarity of God's call in your life."
Robert Madu
Rich with gratitude...
Maybe what we're looking for in riches,
we can find on the other side of gratefulness.
Flowing with encouragement...
"If you're bursting with news about something the Lord has done in your life — an answer to prayer, a long-awaited blessing, a surprising provision — you don't want to spill the beans to just anyone. Like Mary, you long to tell somebody who will get it. A friend who will say, "Praise God!" instead of, "Lucky you.”
The moment Mary arrived, another miracle occurred. "When Elizabeth heard Mary's greeting, the baby leaped in her womb" (Luke 1:41a, NIV). If a mom-to-be eats something sweet or drinks something cold, an unborn child often responds with a swift kick. But this was different: "and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit," (Luke 1:41b, NIV).
Can you fathom the emotions and sensations that must have washed over Elizabeth? An urge to laugh and cry at once, a sense of being flooded with sunlight and fresh air, an overwhelming desire to shout with joy. And shout she did. "In a loud voice she exclaimed: 'Blessed are you among women ...'" (Luke 1:42a, NIV).
Think of it! Two ordinary women bound together by an extraordinary God, empowered by His Holy Spirit.
Mary and Elizabeth had a friendship that shines through the ages. Shared faith, shared joy, shared experience. If you need someone to listen, advise and empathize, consider a woman you know who could use that same kind of support from you. When encouragement flows both directions and honors the Lord, that's a friendship that will go the distance.”
Better than who I use to be...
"Just because I'm a Christian doesn't mean I'm better than anyone else. It means I'm better than me. Better than who I used to be."
Matt Bartgis
Oh December December...
oh december december, you have indeed started in the most unexpected manner. it truly is a month of decisions to be made, battles to conquer, and opportunities to head into. so many mixed emotions the heart has endure, but like G. has mentioned, it is He who saves, who heals, who makes all things abound to us and for us.
worship is not just in those anointed feel good moments, but in times where no human hands nor resources can alter nor improve any given situation. it is in this kind of posture where we surrender it all to the One who's eyes is forever upon us.
have decided from this day forward to surround myself in environments where my heart is free, light and appreciated. it is tough because of an upbringing of grace for all, no matter the cause nor severity but there shall be wisdom for this.
let everything now be led not by my heart, but Your spirit because it is so easy to be swayed by the surface and facade all around. in everything, and that includes times of distress and worry, we will shout forth His glory whom never fails to disappoint.
"Your light will shine in the darkness..."
indeed Your greatest glory in our lives is upon us which is far above what we have experienced through our senses. i am not satisfied, because i simply know there is more, much more. xxx
Monday, December 1, 2014
Timing is everything...
sometimes when what you have always wanted catches up, and all along you thought you may have desired for this, but then you realized that what the heart has once felt soft for no longer has a beat -- absolutely nothing and all blank spaces. and you are now faced with a past attempting to become your present. all i am saying is that i am still grateful for the grace from last time, but those were meant to be rellished then and definitely not now.
surreal and unexpected as it is, timing is everything. everyday and moment matters. a simple difference can alter your life completely. xxx
surreal and unexpected as it is, timing is everything. everyday and moment matters. a simple difference can alter your life completely. xxx
Thursday, November 27, 2014
Wednesday, November 26, 2014
Tuesday, November 25, 2014
Heart of it all, & at rest... Pt. 2
learning to pray more in the spirit, and tuning deeper with His prompting and leading than my own. simply because He knows better. there is no worth chasing after something that is not where i am called for. would rather be in the hallway than go through a door who's knob He did not turn.
J., i know You still got this despite what my senses tell me. that the sight set before me is not the end of it. and instead of hoping and praying on the matter, i find myself at ease being on my knees again.
worship is always the answer to everything. because it lessens self occupation and Christ is at center again. here is where my very significance and value lies and not in any other. i lay down everything i have got, as i am still nothing without Your immense grace.
may i never lose this posture. oh Your love... xxx
J., i know You still got this despite what my senses tell me. that the sight set before me is not the end of it. and instead of hoping and praying on the matter, i find myself at ease being on my knees again.
worship is always the answer to everything. because it lessens self occupation and Christ is at center again. here is where my very significance and value lies and not in any other. i lay down everything i have got, as i am still nothing without Your immense grace.
may i never lose this posture. oh Your love... xxx
Monday, November 24, 2014
Building a Healthy Worship Culture | JD
Leading worship isn't just about the songs we sing on the platform in our church services. Worship is a stance of the heart, it's a lifestyle, and it's reflected in every area of our lives.
As worship teams, let's not just focus on the lights and music and choruses and screens, but let's first focus on building a healthy culture of worship in our churches and worship teams! Here are a few things I've learnt on the way, that help build this kind of culture:
1. IT'S ALL ABOUT EXAMPLE
People will follow what you do more than what you say. It's possible to sometimes get people to do what you say, BUT people will naturally do what they see you doing!
To quote my incredible senior pastor, Brian Houston, "we BE a culture"... we need to BE the example of the culture we want to see, not just talk about it!
2. DON'T LOSE SIGHT OF THE "WHY"
As the church it is so often all hands on deck and we find ourselves often doing things we never expected to be doing. It's way too easy to get caught up in the "doing" that we lose sight of why and whom we are doing it for.
Everything we do should be able to be traced back to glorifying Jesus and helping people see Him in everything! When we remember this is WHY we do what we do then we will do the tasks with much more energy and purpose and joy!! So let's not lose sight of the WHY!
3. REMEMBER IT'S AN HONOUR!
The fact that we have breath - that God IS Emmanuel and always with us - that He would grace us with His presence - my goodness I am grateful!!!! The truth that all we need do is ask Him to come and He does!! WOW!! What an honour that Jesus graces us with His presence!!
When we don't lose sight of this wonder, it will help keep our team culture healthy! Let's not forget the HONOUR it is that we get to be ministers of HIS presence!
4. STAY IN THE WORD
This could not be more basic, but it is even more important than it is basic. The Word of God is a lamp unto our feet and a light unto our path. It's the truth! When people hear it and see it and the Word is being spoken into the culture of a team, it will help the team move in the right direction and be healthy! When the Word of God is central to the culture, it's bound to be healthy!
5. PRAY!
In my journey of leading teams and building healthy cultures, it's rare that a day goes by when I don't pray a very simple prayer that usually goes something like this:
“HELP!!!!!! ...Amen”
Relying on God and asking for Him to help lead and guide us is a MUST! Praise God that He hears our prayers and is our very help is present time of need. We NEED Him and He's with us! So let's PRAY and ask Jesus to lead and guide us and that we would do it HIS way!
6. DON'T DO IT ALONE
We are not a one-man band - we are a TEAM. To build a team you need a team!
Rather than trying to spell out the culture to a large group of people, my suggestion would be to gather a small team of key people and establish the culture you want to build and WHY. Then repeat this week after week after week with them. Once culture is established in your key team, then you can empower this small group that you see as leaders to carry and build the culture in your wider team!
7. EMPOWER OTHERS TO CARRY THE CULTURE
As I have just touched on, it is so helpful to empower people to carry and be the culture. It's great to pray and believe for people to start following the culture you are trying to set, BUT it's also quite useful to sit people down one on one and ask them to embrace, carry, and lead the culture themselves! When we EMPOWER people to carry the culture and own it, their ownership will help build and keep the culture.
8. TRUST IN GOD!! (Not in yourself)
There is a lot we can't do but there is nothing God can't! It's so easy to be discouraged in our own ability (or lack thereof), but it's not necessarily a bad place to find yourself in — it causes us to trust and acknowledge that what we can't be, HE can!!! It's simple and incredibly important!! So let's place our trust in God's ability!
9. ENCOURAGE
Speak that which is not as if it is! People don't usually see the incredible potential that is in them, and even sometimes we as leaders can miss it! The truth is that every single person is a gift from God and has an incredible purpose and plan on their life that is given by God!
Sometimes encouragement is the simplest and most important thing that we can deposit into our team to water the gift within. It's pretty much the main thing that gave me confidence to lead out as a young person. If the leaders in my world didn't tell me that I could do it, I would have never attempted it!
10. WE NEVER ARRIVE
There isn't really a set time frame that it takes to build a culture. For us at Hillsong Church, we are 30 years in and as long as we are gathering and leading people then we will be endeavouring to keep building a healthy culture.
This is meant to be encouraging! It's easy to see where we are not and be discouraged... but as long as you can look back and see progress, then be encouraged!! And KEEP GOING! We don't ever arrive so don't lose heart!
Creating a Worshipful Environment | Brian Houston
“Worship is the strategy by which we interrupt our preoccupation with ourselves and attend to the presence of God. “ - Eugene Peterson
Just over a month ago, I spoke in our weekly staff meeting about ‘Creating a Worshipful Environment’. I love this quote above from Eugene Peterson… it paints the picture that as we take our eyes off ourselves and focus them on God; our worship becomes a powerful strategy – a force for good, changing the environment around us.
Hillsong is a worshipping church. For reasons unbeknown to us, God has graced our church with a ministry of praise and worship that has exceeded far beyond our own natural abilities. I believe worship is very much a part of the culture of our church and to continue a healthy culture of worship, I shared with my staff ten points that we must always keep in mind…
The Psalmist in Psalm 42.4 (MSG) cries out, “I was always at the head of the worshipping crowd, right out in front, Leading them all, eager to arrive and worship, Shouting praises, singing thanksgiving…”
What does it mean to be ‘out front of the worshipping crowd?’ I believe that worship cannot and must not be led just from the platform. Worship must be an environment we cultivate, a culture that we encourage from the furthest seat in our sanctuaries to the Worship Leader at the front of the crowd.
Romans 12:1 (MSG) exhorts us, “Take your everyday, ordinary life – your sleeping, eating, going to work and walking around life – and place it before God as an offering…”
As leaders – or more to the point, as CHRISTIANS – we are to lead lives of worship, eager to always be ‘head of the worshipping crowd’.
Over the years many people have asked about how we create a culture of worship. And I truly believe that the sound of our House will always reflect the soul of our House. Where there is a healthy soul, filled with life and praise and adoration of who God is, there will be a healthy sound that emanates from the very core of who we are and what we know and declare about our God.
Pastors, we must take responsibility for a worshipful environment in our churches. If we see worship as a way of life, then surely a healthy church filled with healthy people will simply see Sunday’s praise and worship as an overflow of our Monday-Friday living.
Hebrews 4:16 (NIV) says, “Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence…”
If worship was about us, I don’t know about you but I wouldn’t be able to approach worship with confidence! Don’t make worship about your worthiness or about what is wrong with you; but instead, focus on what is right with Him. It’s easy to approach the throne in worship when you are focusing on the character of God. He IS good, He IS kind, He IS worthy of all our praise!
“Ascribe to the Lord the glory due His name; bring an offering and come before him. Worship the Lord in the splendor of His holiness”. 1 Chronicles 16:29 (NIV).
There is such temptation to write songs about our feelings, our seasons, and the ups and downs of this life. And, in many respects, there is a place for these songs. Yet, what I know is that songs that speak to God’s unchanging nature, His holiness and the ‘glory due to his name’ are songs that seem to shift the atmosphere, and cause our hearts to focus on who HE is, despite our circumstances and once again allow us to take the focus off ourselves and onto Jesus. Worship is about Him and only Him.
I love the thought of the Psalmist in Psalm 45 (NKJV) “My heart is overflowing with a good theme; I recite my composition concerning the King; my tongue is the pen of a ready writer.”
Worship is an overflow of what is going on in our heart. The correlation between what is on our lips and what is in our hearts runs all throughout scripture. What is on our tongues is so critical and if we truly understand worship in our hearts, it will flow from our mouth with great passion and ease.
Salvation comes by confessing with your mouth and believing in your heart that Jesus is Lord.
Psalm 42:1 (NIV) "As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, my God. My soul thirsts for God, for the living God. When can I go and meet with God?”
Salvation is Gods restorative work - and our worship is a partnership with God in that work. Worship has the power to write the story of your life. Just as your soul longs for God, so our worship is outworking our salvation story.
Have you ever walked into a service where there is praise and worship and you can just sense the presence of God? There is something tangible in the atmosphere of a room where people are worshipping in song. And the same way that worship can do that to a room, I believe it can do it to your life.
Psalm 16:7 (AMP) says, “I will bless the Lord, Who has given me counsel; yes, my heart instructs me in the night seasons.”
If we have a worshipping heart, even though naturally speaking we might not have direction, our heart can guide us with wisdom to the courts of our God. In Psalm 142 David is speaking from a desperate place. I believe we can all have ‘night seasons’; seasons when we are in great need of God. Listen here as David changes the very atmosphere of his life by praising God:
“Listen to my cry,
for I am in desperate need;
rescue me from those who pursue me,
for they are too strong for me.
Set me free from my prison,
that I may praise your name.
Then the righteous will surround me
because of your goodness to me.”
‘The righteous shall surround me… ‘ The scripture paints a picture of being surrounded by praising, worshipping people. It is in that environment of worship that David’s soul was brought out of the ‘prison’ he was in. One of the best things you can do when you are in a stressful, hurtful, or desperate situation is WORSHIP!
From the conversation with the woman at the well (John 4), to the cross of Christ, the empty tomb, the upper room, the early church, the Gate called Beautiful - people began to worship Christ as he was revealed to them.
To truly worship in spirit and in truth, we must discover the person of Jesus and have a personal revelation of who he is. True worship comes out of a revelation of the One whom we worship.
Psalm 145:4 (NIV) says, “One generation commends your works to another; they tell of your mighty acts.”
I love watching the youth of today in Praise and Worship. To some, their crazy dancing, spinning, exuberant praise could be seen as irreverent…but to me (as long as it is Christ-centred) it is their over-the-top expression of love and passion for God that keeps church fun!
There is a beautiful reverence that comes from singing the old hymns penned by Wesley and Newton, and yet there is something powerful about new songs and new anthems that are speaking to the here-and-now of our current walk with Christ.
New songs keep church relevant. We can never lead out of what we used to be, but we can only lead out of what we are, who we are and where we are now.
Worship unifies and brings blessing. It’s a stake in the ground, an irrefutable truth, and a testimony to the glory of God.
I’ve seen worship break down walls of divide that have seemed impossible. In recent times, you can see age-old denominational divides that have been set aside for the sake of worship and song. I truly believe that God uses worship, worship leaders and worship teams to go to many places where perhaps as pastors and preachers we may never be invited to.
The walls of Jericho came down as they ‘shouted unto God’ and I believe the same things happen today as walls that were once divisive, crumble as the people of God unite.
Psalm 133 (NKJV) says, “How blessed are those who dwell in unity.”
Our churches must be environments of worship. But most importantly, let us never forget Who it is we worship. We worship a risen and reigning King, a powerful God and a personal Saviour. He is worthy of ALL our praise, ALL our adoration and ALL of our worship. Amen.
Sunday, November 23, 2014
Friday, November 21, 2014
Stop the talk, Start you walk.
"I'd like for us -- the Church -- to stop arguing about grace and start living it."
Robert Morris
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think i have seen and heard enough to know that in the end, it is our true living of grace in action that is the clear indication of how much we believe in it. guilty and learning. xxx
Robert Morris
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think i have seen and heard enough to know that in the end, it is our true living of grace in action that is the clear indication of how much we believe in it. guilty and learning. xxx
Thursday, November 20, 2014
Heart of it all, & at rest...
have realized if my heart is not at rest at a matter, i will completely lay off. when i begin to find that i am not entirely myself, there is not point harboring nor investing over it. having opportunities that be seemingly good at one moment, may continue to reveal something else that perhaps is not beneficial in a longer term. there is balance, and there are also priorities. that is why knowing what you want brings clarity and stability in all things beyond what you may be currently emoting.
least i know, and will still be in the waiting room till Grace calls my number. xxx
Wednesday, November 19, 2014
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Tuesday, November 11, 2014
Out of the zone, comfort zone that is...
it has been awhile i took a break without travelling out of the country. usually it will be short getaway or a long haul packed with top go sees. as we are half way through november, it has been quite a ride from april. feeling stretched and heavily unmotivated in some areas, i have learnt to make the best out of everything. extremely hard yet unexpectedly possible.
usually the effort level is not high, but it seems it has gone through the roof this year. it is true when said we will be found in areas that are usually out of our comfort zone. dealing with people takes a whole new level of grace, especially the ones whom you honestly do not want to give it to as they are highly unappreciative and a tad mental.
yes, i am human. and yes, i have limits. but, guess He is expanding them on His own and not mine. and whatever the situation, He is our defender, protector and wisdom. in utter surrender mode now, and flowing wherever He leads me. rest is also very present, and security sets in knowing that He is the only One that can make all things possible and provided for.
thought i would receive this rest last weekend through a word, but honestly, it was worship that caught my hearts strings. His voice was as loud as ever, and indeed one is very expectant in seeing it come alive. and it already has actually. i love God moments such as these as it nullifies every self in our bones and pride in our hearts. He truly has us covered.
as things are progressing, i slowly come to realize His marvel plans from the smallest to the greatest. He never misses a thing. and that i can slowly let go to what is becoming... xxx
usually the effort level is not high, but it seems it has gone through the roof this year. it is true when said we will be found in areas that are usually out of our comfort zone. dealing with people takes a whole new level of grace, especially the ones whom you honestly do not want to give it to as they are highly unappreciative and a tad mental.
yes, i am human. and yes, i have limits. but, guess He is expanding them on His own and not mine. and whatever the situation, He is our defender, protector and wisdom. in utter surrender mode now, and flowing wherever He leads me. rest is also very present, and security sets in knowing that He is the only One that can make all things possible and provided for.
thought i would receive this rest last weekend through a word, but honestly, it was worship that caught my hearts strings. His voice was as loud as ever, and indeed one is very expectant in seeing it come alive. and it already has actually. i love God moments such as these as it nullifies every self in our bones and pride in our hearts. He truly has us covered.
as things are progressing, i slowly come to realize His marvel plans from the smallest to the greatest. He never misses a thing. and that i can slowly let go to what is becoming... xxx
Monday, November 10, 2014
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It Will Happen, Crash the Chatterbox | Steven Furtick
- God says He will
- Acts 27:9
- The cook needs to eat what he is serving others
- The voice you believe, will determine the future you experience
- 1. Steer by the spirit, and not by your senses
- God will warn you but He will never create worry
- When the enemy threatens you, he will make your faith weaker
- When you ignore God's warnings, you will suffer loss
- If you stir your life by your senses, you will end up in trouble
- Your feelings cannot forecast the future, only God's feelings can
- 2. Fix your focus, and keep up your encourage
- Sometimes you can't fix the situation, but all you can fix is your focus
- Your hope is not suppose to be in the boat
- The reason why the other sailors were so scared is because they were trusting in the boat to get them to the other side
- If there is one thing I know about God, is that my life is in His hands
- Even if the worst case scenario plays out, God will be there when the boat breaks
- Worry is the down payment on a problem that you may never even have
Wednesday, October 29, 2014
16 Things To Know Before Dating An INFJ | Koty Neelis
Out of 16 different personality types INFJs make the rarest combination of people to exist, which means they’re often misunderstood and dating them can be a challenging adventure. They have the greatest capacity for love and empathy within a relationship but their tendency to be extremely gullible and idealistic can create problems. Here are some things to be mindful of when dating this personality type.
1. If you’re looking for a temporary romance with them they likely won’t even bother.
INFJs prefer long, lasting relationships and avoid short-term relationships if they can. Casual dating and FWB situations just don’t give them the type of deep connection they need to feel fulfilled.
2. They sometimes forget to take care of themselves.
2. They sometimes forget to take care of themselves.
INFJs have a habit of taking care of everyone else around them before they take care of themselves. While this sounds sweet and selfless the problem comes when they realize they’ve overextended themselves so much they end up exhausted and needing to shut everyone else out. Don’t take offense to this. They won’t forget about you. INFJs just need a bit of time to recharge and refocus.
3. They’ll always be thinking about what your next fun date should be.
3. They’ll always be thinking about what your next fun date should be.
INFJ’s are highly idealistic and will always dream big when it comes to your relationship. They always have in the back of their mind your favorite activities, places to go, and preferences when making plans. Although they can enjoy social, more adventurous dates, an ideal date for INFJs are places where you two can spend time one-on-one.
4. Someone who puts a lot of emphasis on labels, designers, or money is immediately off putting.
4. Someone who puts a lot of emphasis on labels, designers, or money is immediately off putting.
The most attractive person to an INFJ is someone that isn’t materialistic and all about wealth. While big gestures are nice and appreciated, INFJs find happiness in the simple details in life and get just as much out of sitting with you and hearing your stories over coffee than doing anything else.
5. INFJs can be loyal to a fault but this doesn’t mean it’s an opportunity to take advantage of them.
5. INFJs can be loyal to a fault but this doesn’t mean it’s an opportunity to take advantage of them.
They’re able to see the best in people. Even if they recognize a relationship is failing they have a hard time detaching themselves from their significant other. They want to believe in their partner so much, often at the risk of sacrificing their own happiness and comfort.
6. INFJs can be very strange people.
6. INFJs can be very strange people.
This isn’t to say that this is a bad thing, but when you’re one of the rarest personality types chances are there’s going to be naturally something a bit unusual going on. INFJs are very complex and at times even their own complexity can confuse them. They’re aware they’re odd and because of their own self-awareness they always feel misunderstood. Feeling like another person truly ‘gets them’ is a very rare thing for them to experience.
7. They’ll always be able to pick up on when you’re lying or being deceptive.
7. They’ll always be able to pick up on when you’re lying or being deceptive.
INFJs have an acute sensitivity for when stories just don’t seem to add up and omitting the facts is just as bad as lying to them.
8. INFJs love helping people, especially the person they’re dating.
8. INFJs love helping people, especially the person they’re dating.
Seriously, it’s one of the things in life that gives them great pleasure. If you’re extremely independent or the type to shy away from receiving help from the person you’re dating you might run into some problems with an INFJ. They see their help, care, and generosity as a way to express their love.
9. Sometimes it can be hard for them to open up.
9. Sometimes it can be hard for them to open up.
Although INFJs are outwardly warm and engaging they often struggle with the ability to be as open and less guarded as other personality types. They don’t reveal as much about themselves as fast their partner does because they don’t want to invest in someone else they feel could possibly disappear overnight.
10. They typically don’t enjoy PDA.
10. They typically don’t enjoy PDA.
When out in public or at a gathering or party the the most appreciated form of affection is a subtle touch once in awhile to let them know you’re there.
11. Don’t ever pressure them to make more friends or socialize more.
11. Don’t ever pressure them to make more friends or socialize more.
INFJs are more interested in having a few solid relationships with people they can truly connect with and be themselves around over dozens of acquaintances with connections that only scratch the surface.
12. They’re extremely future oriented, especially in relationships.
12. They’re extremely future oriented, especially in relationships.
They’re always thinking about long-term possibilities in life whether it’s a the starting of a new relationship or the longevity of a project. If an INFJ isn’t able to see you as a long-term partner they likely aren’t going to keep pursing you.
13. INFJs can be easily affected by the energy around them, including yours.
13. INFJs can be easily affected by the energy around them, including yours.
They need strong partners to be in a truly healthy and fulfilling relationship for them. If their significant other is unstable or constantly has a lot of conflict going on this can completely drain them.
14. They will very rarely initiate anything.
14. They will very rarely initiate anything.
INFJs prefer when other people make the initial contact when it comes to dating. Asking for a number, making plans for a first date – these things will have to be done by you. An INFJ takes careful note of who shows interest and whether the energy they put into someone else is reciprocated or not.
15. If it seems like they’re off in another world, it’s probably because they are.
15. If it seems like they’re off in another world, it’s probably because they are.
INFJs are great at building rich inner lives and daydreaming allows them to live out their fantasies.
16. They’ll always be down to listen to what you have to say.
16. They’ll always be down to listen to what you have to say.
Listening and communicating are INFJs bread and butter. Whether you’re having a bad day at work and need to vent or you just want to talk late into the night about anything and everything an INFJ will contently sit and listen to what’s on your mind.
The best personality types for INFJs to date? ENTP and ENFP are best suited love matches, with INTJs and fellow INFJs coming in as secondary dating possibilities. INFJs should avoid dating ESFP, ESTP, ENTJ, and ESTJ.
The best personality types for INFJs to date? ENTP and ENFP are best suited love matches, with INTJs and fellow INFJs coming in as secondary dating possibilities. INFJs should avoid dating ESFP, ESTP, ENTJ, and ESTJ.
Tuesday, October 28, 2014
Saturday, October 25, 2014
Non priorities & Timing...
it is rather funny how things occur when you have least prioritize it.
and it comes from all sorts.
even in coincidences which you cannot help but give it some thought.
however, one may stick out which is beyond my flesh's reasoning,
and preference which is wildly insane.
this strange inclination has left me dumbfounded.
so rather than fighting it,
i would rather be in the safe zone for now.
going to backen straight into my main focus.
for the rest will have to wait for it's timing.
only He knows, opens and sustains. xxx
and it comes from all sorts.
even in coincidences which you cannot help but give it some thought.
however, one may stick out which is beyond my flesh's reasoning,
and preference which is wildly insane.
this strange inclination has left me dumbfounded.
so rather than fighting it,
i would rather be in the safe zone for now.
going to backen straight into my main focus.
for the rest will have to wait for it's timing.
only He knows, opens and sustains. xxx
Thursday, October 23, 2014
Tuesday, October 21, 2014
Monday, October 20, 2014
Sunday, October 19, 2014
Tested & Tried, Now What?
have you attempted on something and it just didn't work? like there isn't any flow, hence you are no longer feeling it?
honestly, connecting to people has never been an issue in a safe environment. but somehow when i decided to head back to something, it is just stuck. and now my heart tends to want to pack and leave to somewhere greener.
comparing to what was before, it is quite an endurance to bear and the difference is way too vast. the definition of the particular term and it's motto are mere words without experience. something that i cannot phantom and it is just not sitting right.
the heavily preplanned events does not help either. i mean seriously, if things were meant to happen, they would probably have. it is really not that difficult. not saying we are not to be proactive, but be that in a more natural, less forceful manner.
the more one may try to create unnessary stir, the more repulsive and turned off another response may churn out. i did quite enjoy the journey before all the awkward motives started to creep up again.
not the sort to easily give up, and i honestly did not give it a deadline till now. i seeked opinions of those close, and they said four months. well, it has been the fifth month... so till the end of it, we shall see what happens.
least, i tried, and am intensely grateful for the gold i have already found. joy, laughter and authenticity does not fail with the whole lot of you around. now this is what connecting is all about. effortlessly enjoyable. xxx
honestly, connecting to people has never been an issue in a safe environment. but somehow when i decided to head back to something, it is just stuck. and now my heart tends to want to pack and leave to somewhere greener.
comparing to what was before, it is quite an endurance to bear and the difference is way too vast. the definition of the particular term and it's motto are mere words without experience. something that i cannot phantom and it is just not sitting right.
the heavily preplanned events does not help either. i mean seriously, if things were meant to happen, they would probably have. it is really not that difficult. not saying we are not to be proactive, but be that in a more natural, less forceful manner.
the more one may try to create unnessary stir, the more repulsive and turned off another response may churn out. i did quite enjoy the journey before all the awkward motives started to creep up again.
not the sort to easily give up, and i honestly did not give it a deadline till now. i seeked opinions of those close, and they said four months. well, it has been the fifth month... so till the end of it, we shall see what happens.
least, i tried, and am intensely grateful for the gold i have already found. joy, laughter and authenticity does not fail with the whole lot of you around. now this is what connecting is all about. effortlessly enjoyable. xxx
Heading to what lies ahead...
Years ago when Joel and I first got married, we decided to buy a home. We found a home that looked perfect for us! It was located on a beautiful lot in a neighborhood with other young families and had a swimming pool—something I always wanted. We made the best offer we could and prayed that the owners would accept it. Day after day went by, but we didn’t hear anything. We kept speaking words of faith, declaring, “This is our house!” No one was living in it at the time, so we would drive over to it in the evening and sit outside studying it and dreaming about where we would put our furniture. But unfortunately, the homeowners didn’t accept our offer. That door totally closed, and I was so disappointed. I thought for sure that was our house! I found myself tempted to say if only we had offered more money. If only we had prayed harder. If only we had acted sooner, on and on. But instead of mourning over what didn’t work out, I made the choice to let it go and believe that God had something better in store.
Right after we heard the news about the house, I found another property that caught my attention. It was an old, run-down house on a beautiful lot in a really nice neighborhood. It was actually abandoned with broken windows, no landscaping, and even had a scarecrow in the kitchen to keep the animals out. It didn’t look like much, but deep down I believed it was right for us—not based on how much sense it made in the natural, but based on the supernatural peace I had inside. We put a bid on that house, and sure enough, our offer was accepted.
Truthfully, I wasn’t as excited about this house as I was the first one. It didn’t have a swimming pool like I dreamed of; instead, it had crooked floors. The foundation was cracked, and some of the interior doors wouldn’t close. I had to put blocks under my sofa just to keep it from leaning forward. Friends and family used to make jokes about those crooked floors, but I grew to love that house. I knew God gave us that house, so I wasn’t going to look back and focus on what I didn’t get.
We lived in that house for three years, and God blessed us beyond our wildest dreams. We ended up dividing our lot and selling half of it for the same price we originally paid for the entire piece of property. We were able to build a new home for less than what we would have paid for the first house we wanted. God used that crooked-floored house to bless us and bring us through a journey of faith.
Today, I’m not living in a house with crooked floors. I’m living in a house more beautiful than I ever dreamed we would own. But I’m convinced that if I would have been unhappy over what didn’t work out, my attitude would have kept me from God’s best.
Today, if you’re thinking, Life would have been different if only I had this or if only that had happened, let it go. Don’t get stuck focusing on what didn’t work out. Trust that God is guiding your steps. It may not make a lot of sense right now, but if you’ll let go of what you had in mind, God can give you something better. If He can bless us through a crooked-floored house, there’s no telling what He will do for you!
“No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead.” (Philippians 3:13, NLT)
Thursday, October 16, 2014
Imperfect progress...
“I keep messing up with my reactions to things. I have a tendency to process my emotions in an unhealthy way. I am either exploding with angry words or stuffing it down while saying, “I’m fine”. After many failed attempts and many cries of frustration, I realized what was keeping me from change.
It was the feeling that I wouldn’t do it perfectly. Sometimes we think if we don’t make instant progress then real change isn’t coming. Well that is not true.
There is a beautiful thing called imperfect progress. It comes when we take slow steps of progress wrapped in grace. The day I realized this is the day I gave myself permission to believe I really could be different.
I challenged myself to just start having one better reaction each day. Little steps forward, imperfect progress that’s what we need.”
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