{ How Do You Know Someone Is "The One"? || Jefferson Bethke }

• the scriptures are not just cookie cutters in your life but someone the one man Jesus who has redeemed our life
• there is no such thing as the one
• logically if there is the one, one can marry someones one and if one misses it up, it does not work anymore
• puts way too much pressure on the person 
• upholding an ideal that only God and Jesus can satisfy
• putting a burden on the person they cannot bear
• it is not about finding the one, but preparing youself to be the one
• we want to find the one to make our life easy
• we are lazy, and do not need to change or restructure our lives
• marraige is to make us holy more than happy, making us look like Him
• how can you be a better person to serve that spouse
• do not put that idol on the person as you react base upon what they do
• rest and put their identity on who God is, and you can give them grace and love, instead of reacting base on what they do
• have freedom to pick in a church community 
• pick whoever you want 
• it is not about finding the one, but treating that person with love, grace and forgiveness mercy with anyone
• takes all the pressure and burden off the relationship
• it is a standard that no one can meet
• you may miss good Godly people
• you will never actually find that person
• start to notice people in your life who might make a good partner you can be on mission with you, doing what God has called you to do