:: Pride, Fear & All Else Bitter ::

It's impossible to help someone who doesn't have a problem. Self deception is deeply root in the lives of certain people. They have 48 reasons why nothing is ever their fault. No matter how many failures they have, (broken relationships, constant conflicts, multiple jobs etc), they are the victim.

If you don't think you have a problem you never change, you remain stuck in your brokenness, bitterness, and self pity.

There are 3 reasons why I can think of why people get can't see their own stuff;

1. Pride has blinded them. Over confidence reigns in their hearts. They judge themselves by their intentions, but they judge others by their actions.

2. They fear being punished. Often people who grow up in a strict home were severely punished for being wrong. So admitting their failures feels too costly.

3. Bitterness and unforgiveness are like wearing glasses that have scratches on their lens. They view the world with a distorted perspective. Everyone is "out to get them". They always feel "misunderstood."

It usually takes a major catastrophe in their life to shock them into reality. By than they no longer need counseling, they need a resurrection.

Kris Vallatton